Why do we pre program our kids for disapointment ?

Disclaimer: 1. Ive been up for over 24 hours w very little sleep my grammar is awful and I am well aware of this. 2. This blog is not about putting anyone down. It's how I feel and my own personal beliefs and thinking. It is my blog and here for me to write what and how I feel when and where I want to. If it upsets you feel free to either close it and carry on with your day or send me an email and we can discuss how it is I upset you. I am pretty sure I stated many times this is how I feel about my life and my children. How you raise your own is your own business.


First off Let me just say I as a parent fall for the hoopla of the holidays and telling the kids "Santa is coming" etc. But as Valentine's approaches I finally started to thinking about what we teach our children during certain holidays. This blog will only cover Valentines Day for the most part but you can do your own thinking on your own holidays and really consider how many well LIES we tell our children to make it more exciting for them.
Valentines is coming up and well I know what I am getting on Tuesday. Nothing, now it's not all hubby's fault we are plain ole broke and can't afford to do presents perhaps when the taxes come he will find a way to make it or perhaps he won't. Truth is he's like 90% of men and just not a big romantic. While this used to bug the shit out of me that a holiday or birthday would go by and if I did not find him a ride and basically make him buy me something it wouldn't get done. I've learned to except that is who he is. Then I got to thinking, Why do I expect him to Romance me with flowers, chocolates a pretty card, a romantic dinner, a hand written poem etc etc? Well think about it every year since I can remember in school we made these pretty little boxes and we handed out Valentines cards and we sat back and read them and as we got older we waited for that boy to give us the extra sticker or the really lovey dovey one and we were conditioned from a young age that this day meant you waited for your boyfriend or husband to shower you with presents and ride up on that white horse and carry you away. Well it's bull shit. First off why one day a year should he show you he loves you with all this crap you do not really need? We teach our children that life is going to be like holly wood and then wonder why we have a bunch of depressed teens and young adults. We teach them a magical man will bring them presents and put them under a tree, we teach them a giant fricken bunny will come hopping out of no where and bring them a basket full of candy need I go on? How about we teach them that the daily things we do for each other are what show our love? When he does the laundry for me because Ive been to busy and gotten behind that shows me he loves me, When he does the dishes, sweeps the floor, stays up at night with the baby because I have to be at work early .... When he starts the car for me so it will be warm before I have to get in it. Need I go on? Now that is what tells me he loves me each and every day. So do I need a box of chocolate (yes I love chocolate and wouldn't say no to it lol) NO I don't NEED it to believe that he loves me, Do I need some fancy card from the store that he signs his name to NO, What I do need is what he gives me each and every day. HIS LOVE. In all his own ways all the ways that I know in my heart mean he loves me, is thinking of me, is trying to be helpful. That is what a partnership made of love is. I'm going to think long and hard as the new holidays come up what I am going to do and say to my kids, but I think it's long past time I continue to spruce up reality to make it more exciting and start teaching them what it's like in the real world.

Realizations of a Busy Wife and Mom

So the other day standing in line at Best buy the lady asks for my info because as usual I can not find my best buy rewards card....I give her my info she can not find me....I give her another number to try... Hubby is standing next to me growing impatient now...Then it hits me the moment of shame of embarrassment that the info is still under my Maiden name....Sure enough!! We will be celebrating our second Anniversary and I still have places that have my old info. So I have felt bad about all this for days and days, especially since the next day or so Block buster same situation happened. But anyhow, tonight I logged into read my husbands very well written blog as usual. Hes a very intelligent man and writes well. Unlike me. Hell If i have time to write I consider myself lucky. Anyhow, off topic again... I realize after looking at my profile its not updated, Now don't give me to much shit it was only a little less than a year not updated not the two years lol. But I shook my head at myself and quickly fixed it. Felt like shit and then got to thinking of all the sites, profiles, stores, cards etc they make us sign up for these days or that we sign up for and forget about until we really need them... and guess what?? I feel a little less badly.... I am sure somewhere out there we all have something not updated correctly life goes on. It does not mean I love him any less, it does not mean I am not very proud and happy to be his wife it just means I'm busy being a good wife and Mother to our children and have not had time to do it all!!

tada

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We are married!

So on April 17th 2010, I had one of the happiest days of my life. Jimi and were wedded and dreams I never realized were possible came true. Both of us had been married before and the thought of being married again was a bit terrifying for awhile for us both. As time went on and our bond grew, we realized it was something we both wanted. So here we are now, married and so truly happy. The wedding was absolutely beautiful and went very well. I have a lot of friends and family to thank for helping us make this day so beautiful. After an event that means so very much to you like this, it gives you a whole new prospective on your life. You learn just how much your friends and family love you and have your back when it really counts. So many people put their time into making our day so special, friends that may not have liked each other or had their own personal grievances with each other, put on a smile and came to be there for us. Family that you don't see often enough, came and one special uncle of mine even stood in for my Dad in the father daughter dance. So, yeah it sounds silly to some that I say we are so blessed, but indeed now you see we are. We are in love, we have a wonderful family, and amazing friends. What more could one ask for?
Much love,
Jenni
XOXOXOXOXOXO

wed madness

Well I guess I got to start somewhere so here I am. Today is hump day. Im off to work in just a few min, but wanted to write my frist blog first. I plan on using this for just the mindless rambles that I come up with each time I take the time to sit here and type. So if you take the time to sit and read then great and if not you might or might not be missing much. Ok off to work. I love my job so its not a bad thing to go to work. Never thought I would say that but I do!!. I work as a DSP for John Murphy homes. I worked with adults with mental retardation and Autisum and I love it! Even the bad days because I am constantly learning and they are learning from me. What a rewarding job! Ok off I go. Toodles

P.S.
I have choosen to use my maiden name because I am divorced and have been thinking lately of changing my name back.. but that is a whole other blog...