Disclaimer: 1. Ive been up for over 24 hours w very little sleep my grammar is awful and I am well aware of this. 2. This blog is not about putting anyone down. It's how I feel and my own personal beliefs and thinking. It is my blog and here for me to write what and how I feel when and where I want to. If it upsets you feel free to either close it and carry on with your day or send me an email and we can discuss how it is I upset you. I am pretty sure I stated many times this is how I feel about my life and my children. How you raise your own is your own business.
First off Let me just say I as a parent fall for the hoopla of the holidays and telling the kids "Santa is coming" etc. But as Valentine's approaches I finally started to thinking about what we teach our children during certain holidays. This blog will only cover Valentines Day for the most part but you can do your own thinking on your own holidays and really consider how many well LIES we tell our children to make it more exciting for them.
Valentines is coming up and well I know what I am getting on Tuesday. Nothing, now it's not all hubby's fault we are plain ole broke and can't afford to do presents perhaps when the taxes come he will find a way to make it or perhaps he won't. Truth is he's like 90% of men and just not a big romantic. While this used to bug the shit out of me that a holiday or birthday would go by and if I did not find him a ride and basically make him buy me something it wouldn't get done. I've learned to except that is who he is. Then I got to thinking, Why do I expect him to Romance me with flowers, chocolates a pretty card, a romantic dinner, a hand written poem etc etc? Well think about it every year since I can remember in school we made these pretty little boxes and we handed out Valentines cards and we sat back and read them and as we got older we waited for that boy to give us the extra sticker or the really lovey dovey one and we were conditioned from a young age that this day meant you waited for your boyfriend or husband to shower you with presents and ride up on that white horse and carry you away. Well it's bull shit. First off why one day a year should he show you he loves you with all this crap you do not really need? We teach our children that life is going to be like holly wood and then wonder why we have a bunch of depressed teens and young adults. We teach them a magical man will bring them presents and put them under a tree, we teach them a giant fricken bunny will come hopping out of no where and bring them a basket full of candy need I go on? How about we teach them that the daily things we do for each other are what show our love? When he does the laundry for me because Ive been to busy and gotten behind that shows me he loves me, When he does the dishes, sweeps the floor, stays up at night with the baby because I have to be at work early .... When he starts the car for me so it will be warm before I have to get in it. Need I go on? Now that is what tells me he loves me each and every day. So do I need a box of chocolate (yes I love chocolate and wouldn't say no to it lol) NO I don't NEED it to believe that he loves me, Do I need some fancy card from the store that he signs his name to NO, What I do need is what he gives me each and every day. HIS LOVE. In all his own ways all the ways that I know in my heart mean he loves me, is thinking of me, is trying to be helpful. That is what a partnership made of love is. I'm going to think long and hard as the new holidays come up what I am going to do and say to my kids, but I think it's long past time I continue to spruce up reality to make it more exciting and start teaching them what it's like in the real world.
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